THIS IS MY TRUTH:
The information on this page is triplet life as I see
it, and may not reflect all triplet families.
Theme of 2006:
How are we going to babyproof that?
Theme of 2005:
Boy, we have our hands full!
Theme of 2004:
Riding out the storms.
Here's my video of our
"instant celebrity" experience.
Here's the McKenney family's experience.
Both videos offer very different takes on the same type of experience.
But both videos demonstrate the very real sensation of instant celebrity
that comes with having triplets.
confess, in the exhausting first year with the babies, I've done some
really strange things. Lack of sleep takes its toll.
I've dressed Max in pink very girlie pajamas and had him completely
dressed before I noticed what I had done.
one baby on top of another in a crib.
I've poured coffee into a baby bottle.
I've poured formula in my coffee.
threw away a baby outfit in the diaper pail and never got it back.
spent many months wandering around my house, going from room to room
trying to figure out what it is I was getting ready to do.
My Triplet Card
This is a copy of the card
I keep with me to hand out to strangers who speak before they think. I
created and printed these myself. (Only handed out to the meanest spirited
folks. I don't use it anymore.)
(Before Triplets & After Triplets)
Before triplets, a
great restaurant was...
After triplets, a
great restaurant is...
one loud enough to drown
out our noisy crew
one with enough space to
accommodate a triplet stroller
one that brings food
one that will definitely
have three highchairs available to us
spending time to myself meant an hour curled up on the couch with a
spending time to myself means spending five luxurious minutes in the
getting dressed up meant fixing my hair, donning a nice outfit.
getting dressed up means getting into anything that's not PJ's and
doesn't have a stain or two on it.
Before triplets, a
wonderful evening was a nice dinner and a movie.
After triplets, a
wonderful evening is getting the little ones into bed and still finding
the energy to watch an entire movie without falling asleep on the couch.
rest and relaxation was an afternoon at the beach or a canoe trip on the
After triplets, rest and
relaxation is a trip to the bathroom.
Before triplets, we
thought our lives were full and busy.
After triplets, we
know our lives are full and busy.
But, who's complaining?!
Fun facts about the
In the first month that they were at home:
parent of triplets means:
your spouse come home to a messy house and say "What have you
been doing all day?"
need to leave the house to have a playgroup.
You get to
be an expert at dividing things up three ways.
three of ANYTHING, ANYWHERE and you think "triplets."
I said the other day to someone, "This afternoon I
was a mess. I had poop on my shirt and a booger on my arm.
And, for ONCE neither was from me."
It's a joke! But I did have
the boogers and poo thing.
comments we've received about our triplets:
gosh, they're beautiful!"
is the most darling thing I've ever seen."
wonderful family you have!"
"You won the
baby lottery with those."
have thought you'd make wonderful parents to give you three babies at
that babies choose their parents before conception. How terrific that
three babies chose you at once." (This comment was made by a Mormon
woman I passed in Wal Mart.)
"I know the
bible says Thou shalt not covet, but I can't help it. Your family is so
beautiful!" This comment was made by a woman at the mall who was walking
with her SIX children aged 11 and under - all of them beautiful, all of
them well-behaved, and all of them with wonderful smiles on their faces.
NOT to say to a parent with triplets:
"I had three
kids in three years. That's just as hard as having triplets."
Nope, not the same!
"I have one
really difficult kid. She/he is just as much work as triplets."
Nope, not the same either!
that has to do with "triple trouble." Kids pick up on that
thing!" Not even. We're so happy to have our children.
They're a blessing.
see a parent with triplets:
that you are probably the 26th person that half-hour to stop and ask
questions, make comments, point, stare, follow, stalk, touch or
be offended if a parent with triplets just keeps walking and isn't in
the mood to "chitchat" about the kids. The clock is always running
and if all of the kids are happy, it's a guarantee that it won't last
for long. An even greater spectacle than having triplets is having
acknowledge older siblings.
comments short, simple, and pleasant.
NO questions about conception. Do you share your sex life
Is it a Twin thing?
It's sometimes not always
apparent to distinguish between learned behavior and what is inherent,
but I'm starting to see some things emerge that are more than
coincidence with the girls.
Both girls got their first
tooth within a day of one another.
Both girls developed the
same need for a security blanket on the same day and unfortunately favor
the same security blanket (we're getting another one).
Both girls, more often than
not, have poop at the same time.
While raising children, time
distortion is inevitable. It seems you can blink and your children
turn from infants into teenagers. With triplets, time is distorted
in ways I've never before experienced. The saying is with triplets
that the days are long but the weeks fly by. And so it is.
I get tears in my eyes when
I pause to think how quickly the wee ones are going to grow, and of how
much they already have. Then, in almost the same instant, the tears
dry up and time seems to stand still when the babies are all screaming.
They're almost a year old. How can it be? The trick is,
and an impossible one, to slow down time enough to enjoy their childhood
but speed it up enough to get past the rough spots.
A new mom, awake every three hours at night with her
first baby, thought she had her hands full - and she did. Then she met...
A new mom of twins, exhausted from being awake
doing double duty while trying to master the art of feeding two at the
same time, thought she had her hands full - and she did. Then she met...
A new mom of triplets, learning to juggle three babies
with only two arms, while dealing with intense sleep-deprivation,
thought she had her hands full - and she did. Then she met...
A mom of a new set of triplets who had a toddler still
in diapers and several school aged children, spreading herself in many
different directions at once, while dealing with intense sleep
deprivation, thought she had her hands full - and she did. Then she learned
A mom of who just gave birth to her second set of
triplets within two years, still changing diapers of a trio of toddlers,
while dealing with sleep-deprivation, with a bigger life change than she
could ever have imagined, thought she had her hands full - and she did. Then she
saw the program about...
A mom who just gave birth to her 16th child, adding to
her 15 children all under the age of 18, juggling so many different
tasks to keep her busy family cared for, thought she had her hands
full - and she did....
Each of the moms thought they had their hands full, and
then they met... a woman who would never know the joy of carrying,
giving birth to and nurturing her very own baby, and each of those moms
were glad they had their hands full.
Perspective is everything.
It's Definitely a Triplet Thing
Here are some things that
we take for granted sometimes (because we see it everyday), but how
interesting it is to have triplets around!
The babies follow each
other around and work in clusters at any given toy.
They seem to "sing" to each
other and mimic each other's voices
When one cries, it sparks a
The one toy that is most
interesting to one is the one toy that the others MUST take away.
Zipping around the house in
walkers is fun to watch but dangerous to the ankles of observers.
Just plain crazy and stupid comments we've gotten
about our triplets:
(the bold ones are the
"That one's pretty.
But THAT one's even prettier."
"I'll give you 25-cents a
piece for them." This comment came from a little old guy.
I didn't take offense.
"Get them fixed NOW!"
What on earth did that mean?!
And, the worst - the
"I'd have shot myself in the head if I'd have found out I was
carrying triplets." To which I replied, "That's horrible.
Look at those sweet children. She retorted,
"Oh, no. Really. I'd have shot myself in the head!"
"Wow. You kids look
"Boy, you got a whole mess
TAKES THE CAKE! - "You
poor thing!" Response to my
3-year-old son when he proudly announced that he has "triblets" at home.
Just when I thought RUDE couldn't get any ruder. Stupid woman!
"I'd have sold two of them."
"Where'd the brown one come from?"
(referring to the fact that only
one(Max) of the four tiny ones has brown hair)
"The only thing worse
than twin boys is twin girls." Said by a father of twin boys.
scary!" Loren turned to him and said, "No, you're
"I'd be drunk ALL the
time," said a woman watching us deal with our busy babies during a
"I guess it could be
worse," a mom of twins said, referring to us as she pushed her twins
past. Yeah, Lady, it could be worse. We could've lost one of
our precious babies!
"That's a cool stroller.
Too bad you had to have 3 kids to get one."
they're triplets?" "Yes." "Oh, well are they all the same age?"
(Huh? I scratched my head with that one.)
hate to be you."
tell me you're only babysitting these babies!"
must be crazy to have three babies at once!"
own personal favorite. "You're
lucky they're not all stuck together. Usually with three, at least
two of them are joined together." I'm NOT kidding about this
happened to that one?" (referring to Max having brown hair)
that one different?" (once again referring to Max having brown hair)
one's the smart one?"
there's trouble. What a triple headache!" - said by a guy who looked
like he had a mouthful of vomit. (I didn't bite my tongue with this
one and let the guy have it!)
"I had my
3 the hard way - one at a time." Okay. Yeah, Lady!
Carrying, delivering, and caring for triplets has been a breeze!"
that's my idea of a nightmare."
one's the runt, huh?" Referring to Nadia.
should buy a TV!"
sorry (you have 3 kids)."
one is your favorite?"
this an extra one?" (speaking of Angus)
have any more kids."
I say congratulations or condolences?"
"I hope you're done!" (Dumb lady in Babies R Us) - Referring to NOT having more
kids. Of course I said no...
"I'd kill myself" - Referring to not wanting triplets
"Are they all yours?"
"If they're triplets, then why is that one bigger? (referring to Max)"
"Which one can I have?"
"I thought I
hated MY life."
all from the same mother?"
happen?" (referring to their conception)
trying for triplets?"
all 3 twins?"
Mormon? or "Are you Catholic?"
all born at the same time?"
know you were having triplets?"
"You must be
"It'd be my
bad luck to get triplets the first time I get pregnant."
"Oh, I feel
so sorry for you!"
AND THE NUMBER ONE COMMENT
WE GET EACH AND EVERY SINGLE TIME WE'RE OUT: "Boy, you have your
Responses to Dumb
A response I fantasize about
using but have never used: "I'm sorry. I'm not fluent
enough in Idiot to continue this conversation."
Here are some stock
responses I've learned to deliver:
Yes, we do
(have our hands full)
Yes, we are
agree more (to the better you than me).
you say that? (to the poor thing, poor you, etc.)
told me, "I'd hate to be you." Since on that day I eloquently found a
way to shut her up, and feel graceful and vindicated, I've used the
following phrase on so many occasions.
phrase works on so many of the negative comments I've gotten such as:
see that in each case of the above negative statement, the phrase "I'd
say the same thing about you/to you, but that would be rude, wouldn't
it?"works. It shuts people up and makes them think.
mind with going out into public can come with giving a piece of my mind
to those who threaten to attack my precious family. And, I realize
why I get my attack face out when I go into public. A mother and
father have an overwhelming urge to protect their children from attacks,
personal, physical, verbal, whatever. Parents of multiples,
especially higher order multiples are confronted by strangers on a
minute-by-minute basis in public and my acute awareness and instinct
tells me to protect my small children from the negative comments from
ignorant people. But, I do it in such a way so it serves to teach
the commenter that he or she has said something inappropriate.
Nature is Cruel to
Moms of Multiples
When the babies were born we should have
received along with them:
24 extra hours per baby per
day to spend caring for and loving each
1 extra set of hands on
both mom and dad per baby
an extra breast would have
the ability to go weeks
During the month preceding their 6-month milestone:
Together they drank 18 bottles a day - about 1-gallon of formula.
used about 18 diapers a day.
Formula costs for one month - $550.00
costs for one month - $125.00
at least one load of baby laundry per day.
constitutes a somewhat healthy supply of formula for triplets:
(That's about 70 or 80 cans of formula. In other words, this would just
about feed one baby for his/her infancy. Not so, with triplets, however.)